Willing yourself to not contact an ex

[docellis]

I've gotten back together with ex-girlfriends before, nothing too serious, and had a great time with it. Enjoy it for what it is. Spending some time together with someone you know, like and have a lot of fun with. And if he already knows what bugs you about him, he might try and reinvent himself to some extent so as to not to piss you off. It can be a great situation...at least until one of you starts taking it too seriously.

I wish it was like that. We are 13 hours away from each other. And nothing good could come from spending time together. He isn't just some 'ex'. He was the only guy I've ever been in love with. I did my best for the last 3 years - I had a great time dating around....meeting new people... But nobody has come anywhere close to what I had with him. Random ex boyfriends? Yep, I agree. Easy to screw around with. Fun. This is a guy I -- the only guy -- I'd do anything for.

[GatewaySnayke]

I read one page and realized

/geenthread

[Richie Allen]

This is a guy I -- the only guy -- I'd do anything for.

Except date again...I'm joking. I did say something similar once to a shrink and was told that thinking/saying that ("I'd do anything for so and so) was not a wise stance to take in a relationship. I'm still not completely sure why but I thought I'd pass it along. Of course, it doesn't sound like you plan on being in a relationship with him so I suppose that simplifies/complicates (not sure which) it somewhat.

Yes, a more serious relationship may make it a bit harder for you to be casual but the relationships I spoke of were very serious as well. I'd like to think all of my relationships have been very serious at one point or another. Anyway, if you know that no good could possibly come from it than I agree you should probably stay away from each other.

[AWvsCBsteeeerike3]

I'm so confused.

You'd do anything for him and he makes you so happy and you love him, but....... he drags you down? I'm thinking unless this is a serious drug problem you could over come it......

[TimeForGuinness]

You know you're going to call him, so just call him. Stop dancing around the issue, life is too short and you don't know what has happened over the past few years...maybe it will work...maybe it won't. Either way, you can move on after the call...either with him or without him.

Deep down inside, I think that one day you hope it will work again...but you're too scared to find out.

Hearts are very delicate, especially when you let someone in.

I know.

[TimeForGuinness]

I'm so confused.

You'd do anything for him and he makes you so happy and you love him, but....... he drags you down? I'm thinking unless this is a serious drug problem you could over come it......

love is the most addictive drug.

[Jocephus]

I'm so confused.

You'd do anything for him and he makes you so happy and you love him, but....... he drags you down? I'm thinking unless this is a serious drug problem you could over come it......

love is the most addictive drug.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RYqPy9KD72c

[sighyoung]

doc, I assume you had a good reason for breaking off the relationship.

My question is this--is your continuing interest in your ex really related to your ex, is does it reflect your dissatisfaction with other relationships since your break-up?

I'm not being flippant. I really want to know what you think.

[cardinalkarp]

You know you're going to call him, so just call him. Stop dancing around the issue, life is too short and you don't know what has happened over the past few years...maybe it will work...maybe it won't. Either way, you can move on after the call...either with him or without him.

Deep down inside, I think that one day you hope it will work again...but you're too scared to find out.

Hearts are very delicate, especially when you let someone in.

I know.

What do you mean? She said she called him.

[cardinalkarp]

I'm so confused.

You'd do anything for him and he makes you so happy and you love him, but....... he drags you down? I'm thinking unless this is a serious drug problem you could over come it......

That's really the only thing I could think of why they broke up to begin with. Not that its right.