Willing yourself to not contact an ex

[AWvsCBsteeeerike3]

This is what I think of.

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[Socnorb11]

I guess I don't see the point in calling him if you know it will lead to ugliness.

I'm not sure why you'd even consider it.

[docellis]

I guess I don't see the point in calling him if you know it will lead to ugliness.

I'm not sure why you'd even consider it.

It would lead to me wanting him back, not ugliness. It took some serious will power for me to leave him and the relationship wasn't good for me, it was bad for me.

[Socnorb11]

I guess I don't see the point in calling him if you know it will lead to ugliness.

I'm not sure why you'd even consider it.

It would lead to me wanting him back, not ugliness. It took some serious will power for me to leave him and the relationship wasn't good for me, it was bad for me.

If the relationship was "ugly", and calling him would lead you to wanting him back, then I put 2 and 2 together and determine that calling him would lead to ugliness.

Again, all of those things considered, I'm not sure why calling him should even be an option.

[JCShutout]

This is bull. Don't call him.

Dreams don't tell you anything about the world out there. They do tell you about how you feel. He's not dying, but your love for him is.

Don't call, it's sentimental claptrap.

This. I swear Geen, sometimes I think we're the same person.

[cardinalkarp]

I guess I don't see the point in calling him if you know it will lead to ugliness.

I'm not sure why you'd even consider it.

It would lead to me wanting him back, not ugliness. It took some serious will power for me to leave him and the relationship wasn't good for me, it was bad for me.

If the relationship was bad for you why would you want him back?

[docellis]

I guess I don't see the point in calling him if you know it will lead to ugliness.

I'm not sure why you'd even consider it.

It would lead to me wanting him back, not ugliness. It took some serious will power for me to leave him and the relationship wasn't good for me, it was bad for me.

If the relationship was "ugly", and calling him would lead you to wanting him back, then I put 2 and 2 together and determine that calling him would lead to ugliness.

Again, all of those things considered, I'm not sure why calling him should even be an option.

Logically it shouldn't be. But it is hard to use logic when you miss someone and dream that they are dying. I haven't called him because I know I shouldn't. It is just hard.

[docellis]

I guess I don't see the point in calling him if you know it will lead to ugliness.

I'm not sure why you'd even consider it.

It would lead to me wanting him back, not ugliness. It took some serious will power for me to leave him and the relationship wasn't good for me, it was bad for me.

If the relationship was bad for you why would you want him back?

Logically, I don't want him back.

But it is just as hard to make yourself love someone as it is to make yourself stop loving someone.

[Socnorb11]

I guess I don't see the point in calling him if you know it will lead to ugliness.

I'm not sure why you'd even consider it.

It would lead to me wanting him back, not ugliness. It took some serious will power for me to leave him and the relationship wasn't good for me, it was bad for me.

If the relationship was "ugly", and calling him would lead you to wanting him back, then I put 2 and 2 together and determine that calling him would lead to ugliness.

Again, all of those things considered, I'm not sure why calling him should even be an option.

Logically it shouldn't be. But it is hard to use logic when you miss someone and dream that they are dying. I haven't called him because I know I shouldn't. It is just hard.

But to answer your original question......

Of course you don't need to call him.

[StatmanCrothers]

Mental exercise:

So if your dream was true, and he's dying, what would be gained from calling? What would be lost by calling? We're all dying. Whether he knows he has a fatal illness, or is in perfect health, he will die eventually. Sooner, or probably later, given his age.

Is there something you need to say to him before he dies? Do you feel if he KNEW he was dying, you would add value to his remaining time by calling him?

If you left him, and the reasons you left him haven't changed, then calling him on his deathbed could reopen old scars and make him even more miserable. Who would it benefit, this call, this contact?

If your dream was not true, and he's not dying, to his knowledge, what would be gained from calling? Warn him to get a checkup because you have had prophetic dreams in the past?

Whether your dream is true or not, it seems to have no bearing on whether you should call him, unless you just need to know if the dream is true or not. Prophetic dreaming could be a valuable tool for you.