docellis wrote:I wish I could maintain anger. I get really mad---really mad in an instant. But once that feeling dissipates, I can't force it to come back.
So, many times I get over things I shouldn't. I forget slights that I should remember.
I allow crazy people back in my life because I don't have the ability to sustain anger.
I used to get so mad that I countered my antagonist with enough force that they wouldn't attempt friendship with me ever again.
But I don't care that much anymore. I get mad enough to post here. Then I forget how mad I was and after a few months I hang out with people I don't need to be dealing with.
How do you cut ties with people?
IMO -She's asking how to get rid of a guys she's not all that interested in, without being in constant angry be-yatch mode. a simple "please leave me alone" is often not enough to get the clowns to back off. the only way to get rid of them is to maintain anger. sometimes its not worth it or is exhausting.
I know women that face Doc's problem, especially better than average looking women. Guys pester them all the time in the workplace and out and about. it doesn't matter if they are married or dating, they still stalk or gawk. Anyday they are platonicly nice or even just non-beyatchy towards the guys, the guys take this as sign to move on in.
Freed Roger wrote:IMO -She's asking how to get rid of a guys she's not all that interested in, without being in constant angry be-yatch mode. a simple "please leave me alone" is often not enough to get the clowns to back off. the only way to get rid of them is to maintain anger. sometimes its not worth it or is exhausting.
I know women that face Doc's problem, especially better than average looking women. Guys pester them all the time in the workplace and out and about. it doesn't matter if they are married or dating, they still stalk or gawk. Anyday they are platonicly nice or even just non-beyatchy towards the guys, the guys take this as sign to move on in.
In that case, this rant should have been titled "clueless people" instead of "not being able to maintain anger".
Cronos69 wrote:Doc, is the reason that you want to hold on to anger so that you can more easily say "no" when the same people or people who are similar want to come back into your life?
