tothebeach08 wrote:This sounds very similar to what someone else I know is going through. She pulls you in, pushes you away, over and over. YOU have to decide how much your willing to take and WHY are YOU doing this to YOURSELF. She's only doing what your allowing to be done. If you want her back and she knows it but she's with someone else .... then you have your answer. If you want her back and you haven't told her, then you need to. You'll either end up together or not but at least you won't be driving yourself insane anymore.
Way too many pronouns in this. But seriously, I feel like people who have been through these types of situations operate on a secret code above everyone not included: is this completely foreign and unintelligible to anyone else?
tothebeach08 wrote:This sounds very similar to what someone else I know is going through. She pulls you in, pushes you away, over and over. YOU have to decide how much your willing to take and WHY are YOU doing this to YOURSELF. She's only doing what your allowing to be done. If you want her back and she knows it but she's with someone else .... then you have your answer. If you want her back and you haven't told her, then you need to. You'll either end up together or not but at least you won't be driving yourself insane anymore.
Way too many pronouns in this. But seriously, I feel like people who have been through these types of situations operate on a secret code above everyone not included: is this completely foreign and unintelligible to anyone else?
I didn't know this was the counting pronouns forum. Ambien and Bud Light Lime may have heldped madel this hard to understand but really it's simple. Don't torture yourself over someone who does't want you ... move on and stop it. It'z all kool...
TimeForGuinness wrote:Lay it on the line and either get back together or walk away.
QFT. It sounds like she might be interested if she does this every holiday. Then again, she may just like the attention. You'll never know until you do what TFG suggests.
Decide what you want and go for it. Life is to short to live with regrets. If you want to be with her, let her know, if she says no, move on, and don't hang out with her.
i gotta be honest. i heard boyz2men the whole time i read this thread.
speaking from experience, its really tough to be in that crappy middle ground of still wanting and not having. why cant those of us in these situations have a sweet Hollywood scene where we give a speech in light snow and hug and music plays, then we save a lost dog and the bad guy gets arrested?
Maclowery wrote:i gotta be honest. i heard boyz2men the whole time i read this thread.
speaking from experience, its really tough to be in that crappy middle ground of still wanting and not having. why cant those of us in these situations have a sweet Hollywood scene where we give a speech in light snow and hug and music plays, then we save a lost dog and the bad guy gets arrested?
is that too much to ask?
Don't forget saving Christmas too, you gotta have that too.
this thread makes me sad. i had a relationship just like it a few years back, and it took me a few years to drag myself out of it and be totally "available" again...
it also makes me grateful for having met mrs. k at the right place, the right time and for having the presence of mind to know it.
TimeForGuinness wrote:Lay it on the line and either get back together or walk away.
I had to do this twice in my lifetime; unfortunately, instead of geeting back together, both times it was agonizing for me to walk away. However, the painful decisions allowed me to move on with my life.....tothebeach also gave great advice.
