cardinalkarp wrote:So why are you feeling so sorry for yourself?
that wasn't very nice.. the dude's hurtin' right now..
It just seems weird to me that he keeps saying how badly he wants to have his girlfriend back but he's the one that broke up w/ her.
I would be really pissed at her for obviously hitting on guys in front of me to rile me up but I'm not sure if I would cut all ties w/ her because of that. Especially if I was feeling that way he says he is (seems to be regretting the decision).
not really regretting....just wish it didn't have to be done.
I'd look at it this way (and I think you are too)....
Nobody wanted to see Ol' Yeller shot. But it had to be done. That doesn't mean you don't pine for the good days with Ol' Yeller.
cardinalkarp wrote:I'm guessing you've tried to talk to her about these issues before then?
Oh yeah. We've had fights like this before. Nothing physical ever, but to the point that I get mad at her retardedness which gives her an excuse to get mad. It's always around my friends and it's always because she's feeling insecure. We've talked and talked and talked about it.....
AWvsCBsteeeerike3 wrote:So I just went to craigslist to see if there was anything on there and stumbled into this beauty:
who wants to spend the holidays alone? i am lonley and want to have someone to show the family. come have fun with everyone then i will [expletive] your brains out. i am a full figured woman and your personality matters more than your looks. don't be afraid to e-mail me. you never know
I'd be afraid to e-mail her. That route can end up making you even more depressed.
cardinalkarp wrote:So why are you feeling so sorry for yourself?
that wasn't very nice.. the dude's hurtin' right now..
It just seems weird to me that he keeps saying how badly he wants to have his girlfriend back but he's the one that broke up w/ her.
I would be really pissed at her for obviously hitting on guys in front of me to rile me up but I'm not sure if I would cut all ties w/ her because of that. Especially if I was feeling that way he says he is (seems to be regretting the decision).
not really regretting....just wish it didn't have to be done.
I'd look at it this way (and I think you are too)....
Nobody wanted to see Ol' Yeller shot. But it had to be done. That doesn't mean you don't pine for the good days with Ol' Yeller.
cardinalkarp wrote:So why are you feeling so sorry for yourself?
that wasn't very nice.. the dude's hurtin' right now..
It just seems weird to me that he keeps saying how badly he wants to have his girlfriend back but he's the one that broke up w/ her.
I would be really pissed at her for obviously hitting on guys in front of me to rile me up but I'm not sure if I would cut all ties w/ her because of that. Especially if I was feeling that way he says he is (seems to be regretting the decision).
I actually think he's doing the smart thing. The easiest thing would be to give in and welcome her back but that's not always the right move. That birthday tomorrow is going to make it hard, however. (no pun intended)
cardinalkarp wrote:So why are you feeling so sorry for yourself?
that wasn't very nice.. the dude's hurtin' right now..
It just seems weird to me that he keeps saying how badly he wants to have his girlfriend back but he's the one that broke up w/ her.
I would be really pissed at her for obviously hitting on guys in front of me to rile me up but I'm not sure if I would cut all ties w/ her because of that. Especially if I was feeling that way he says he is (seems to be regretting the decision).
I actually think he's doing the smart thing. The easiest thing would be to give in and welcome her back but that's not always the right move. That birthday tomorrow is going to make it hard, however. (no pun intended)
I'm not saying "welcoming" her back w/ open arms but if he thinks that 99% of the time he was happy in the relationship then I think its kind of silly he throws it all away.
I'm not sure about you but NO relationship/marriage is great 100% of the time. Every couple is going to have something that they have to deal with, its just whether or not you think that person is worth it to deal w/ those issues.
cardinalkarp wrote:So why are you feeling so sorry for yourself?
that wasn't very nice.. the dude's hurtin' right now..
It just seems weird to me that he keeps saying how badly he wants to have his girlfriend back but he's the one that broke up w/ her.
I would be really pissed at her for obviously hitting on guys in front of me to rile me up but I'm not sure if I would cut all ties w/ her because of that. Especially if I was feeling that way he says he is (seems to be regretting the decision).
I actually think he's doing the smart thing. The easiest thing would be to give in and welcome her back but that's not always the right move. That birthday tomorrow is going to make it hard, however. (no pun intended)
I'm not saying "welcoming" her back w/ open arms but if he thinks that 99% of the time he was happy in the relationship then I think its kind of silly he throws it all away.
I'm not sure about you but NO relationship/marriage is great 100% of the time. Every couple is going to have something that they have to deal with, its just whether or not you think that person is worth it to deal w/ those issues.
As long as he can keep dodging arrest and hospitalization from that 1 per cent of the time that it is bad
As long as he can keep dodging arrest and hospitalization from that 1 per cent of the time that it is bad
Well I'm not sure he can blame her for this one.
Yeah she was definitely wrong for intentionally flirting w/ the dude to piss him off but decking the guy wasn't a good solution no matter what way you look at it. That is unless he wanted to get put in jail.
It's not that she's not worth dealing with the issues over. It's that she won't deal with the issues and it's just a matter of time before this whole thing blows up. It's not like a little random, isolated incident. This sort of [expletive] happens 100% of the time when we're away from her friends/around mine. She says we're too "perfect" for her. It's stupid and I've told her a million times I'm not even worthy of her and if she had normal self-esteem she wouldn't have started dating me. But, she just doesn't see it. She just refuses to deal with it. I've offered to pay for counseling/go to counseling with her/kiss her ass any time she's feeling bad....do whatever I can. But, I just don't know what to do.
We could get married and at the reception she would pick a fight b/c she's so insecure around my friends.
