being single

[docellis]

she sounds manipulative and immature. go have fun being single.

[Richie Allen]

I just want to shoot myself in the head.

I've been dating this girl for almost a year. I've lived with her the past 6 mos and I absolutely love her. And, we go out Saturday night with my friends. For some reason she is uncomfortable around them and loses all confidence. (We've talked about this and how she needs to just be herself instead of being so needy.) So, the problems that result from that are ugly. Like acting aloof at dinner/not even in the conversation but rather texting on her phone and making phone calls.....then we go out and she hits on/flirts with every guy she can right in front of me to piss me off. So....I pull her aside, tell her I love her and to please stop. And, the next bar we go to she starts rubbing the bouncers back......so i say something and he says something to me so I hit him inthe face and get gang raped by all his bouncer buddies.

As I'm getting wrestled to the ground, someone kicks me in the hip. I know, right? who does that? but i have a massive bruise on it and luckily that's the only place. Then the cops show up and I get arrested...but talked my way out of getting a public intox and they let me go.....end of the story. We're done.

I'm hungover and want to die right now. She showed up right as I was leaving for work and all I want to do is hug her and tell her I love her but that's not going to help anything. This is just not going to work and it sucks to say that.

We always want to hug them and make up and make things go back to the way they were when we first met but it sounds to me like there are some issues with you guys. Her behavior of wanting to make you jealous is a red flag, especially when it appears that you did nothing to "deserve" it. Girls like that can be a lot of fun but they can also be a lot of problems. Typically, it's a self-confidence issue that is not easily addressed. You may be a lot better off in the long run with someone else. Any time your problems with a girl end up with police officers involved, it's time to step back and examine the situation.

[JL21]

I'm gonna go ahead and channel "In the Company of Men"...

F@%# her. Let's go get a sandwich.

[thrill]

Dumb people need to understand that bouncers go to work every night praying to Patrick Swayze that someone will start a fight with one of them. They are dumb meat heads and when a drunk starts a fight with them they all get in on the inevitable gang beat down that takes place because they know any cop will take their side every time.

[Jocephus]

Dumb people need to understand that bouncers go to work every night praying to Patrick Swayze that someone will start a fight with one of them. They are dumb meat heads and when a drunk starts a fight with them they all get in on the inevitable gang beat down that takes place because they know any cop will take their side every time.

dumb meat heads indeed

[AWvsCBsteeeerike3]

Dumb people need to understand that bouncers go to work every night praying to Patrick Swayze that someone will start a fight with one of them. They are dumb meat heads and when a drunk starts a fight with them they all get in on the inevitable gang beat down that takes place because they know any cop will take their side every time.

I agree. There's defintely two types of bouncers though. Some realize their job is to make sure people are 21 and carry kegs around. Others think it's their place and they are going to enforce whatever laws they want. The guy I messed with was the latter, and definitly thought his [expletive] didn't stink. I said something to my gf along the lines of hey, why don't you cut that [expletive] out. The bouncer said to leave before he kicks me out for causing a ruckus which i hadn't even done. He turns to my gf and goes "You want me to kick this loser out so he'll stop annoying you?" That's when I lost it and boom right to the face. I still get a feeling of satisfaction thinking about it. Then, like 4 or 5 other guys came over and basically ganged up on me. I dodged most of the punches and what not, but somebody had me in a headlock trying to tackle me when I got kicked in the hip. That still pisses me off. But, it took the cops about 2 minutes to show up, the entire time I spent under a pile of bodies trying to protect my balls and eyes from being poked.

The cops were like, alright public intox and something else. I was able to talk to them after the bouncers all told their story. I just told them what was going on and that it was my fault and I made a mistake. And I wasn't that drunk so that helped I guess. They let me go which I definitely wasn't expecting.

But, yeah, fighting bouncers is about as dumb as it gets.

[thrill]

Dumb people need to understand that bouncers go to work every night praying to Patrick Swayze that someone will start a fight with one of them. They are dumb meat heads and when a drunk starts a fight with them they all get in on the inevitable gang beat down that takes place because they know any cop will take their side every time.

I agree. There's defintely two types of bouncers though. Some realize their job is to make sure people are 21 and carry kegs around. Others think it's their place and they are going to enforce whatever laws they want. The guy I messed with was the latter, and definitly thought his [expletive] didn't stink. I said something to my gf along the lines of hey, why don't you cut that [expletive] out. The bouncer said to leave before he kicks me out for causing a ruckus which i hadn't even done. He turns to my gf and goes "You want me to kick this loser out so he'll stop annoying you?" That's when I lost it and boom right to the face. I still get a feeling of satisfaction thinking about it. Then, like 4 or 5 other guys came over and basically ganged up on me. I dodged most of the punches and what not, but somebody had me in a headlock trying to tackle me when I got kicked in the hip. That still pisses me off. But, it took the cops about 2 minutes to show up, the entire time I spent under a pile of bodies trying to protect my balls and eyes from being poked.

The cops were like, alright public intox and something else. I was able to talk to them after the bouncers all told their story. I just told them what was going on and that it was my fault and I made a mistake. And I wasn't that drunk so that helped I guess. They let me go which I definitely wasn't expecting.

But, yeah, fighting bouncers is about as dumb as it gets.

I was a bouncer for like 2 months and it was pathetic. They literally do watch Roadhouse like porn.

[Socnorb11]

So you took a beating and the bouncer took a beating, but it sounds to me like the bimbo that you were with was the one who needed punched in the face.

[AWvsCBsteeeerike3]

The worst part is being alone. I crave human contact. In the last year or so I've had three friends shipped off to Iraq and three friends move out of the area. My list of people to hang out with has been dwindling. My gf and I did everything together. We would meet up after work and go to the gym and cook dinner together, go see movies, go out, etc. etc. etc. And, when we were with her friends or by ourselves it was awesome.

The thought of going home tonight to an empty home, working out by myself, cooking for one, sleeping alone, is depressing in its own regard. But not having someone to talk to or kid around with makes it worse.

[TimeForGuinness]

...sounds like you need another trip to the country to roast another pig...

...she knew what she was doing, time to let her go.