Rant/poll: Am I outta line?

[heyzeus]

My dad's been retired for over 10 years. He and his brother constantly sit at the computer, sending out email forwards. Usually they're innocuous - political conspiracies about the price of gas, dumb Hilary Clinton jokes, etc.

Yesterday I open an email from him entitled "Sincerest Apologies." It's a letter apologizing for sending out inappropriate things. Then at the bottom there's a picture of a bottomless woman bending over.

He recently acquired my fiance and HER MOTHER's email addresses when we were all planning a trip. He sent this forward to both of them.

I emailed my dad to kindly ask him not to send this kind of thing out to them since they didn't ask to be sent things like that, and also that people are likely to get into trouble/get fired for opening inappropriate stuff at work so you have to warn them or something.

His response: 1. Why are you reading personal email at work (remember, he retired before email was big). 2. If anyone's offended, it's their problem not mine.

Am I taking crazy pills? He's p.o'd at me now, but I think that's borderline insane.

[maddash]

I have my thoughts on old people/retirees/parent & grandparents... but I'm pretty sure I'll offend people if I express them.

I'll just say that you're not out of line at all.

[tothebeach08]

By bottomless I'm guessing you mean pantie-less, not legless.

Sending that to you and/or his cronies is one thing, but your future mother-in-law?

IMO, your right. Good luck with that.....

[docellis]

Yeah the issue isn't the medium (e-mail) but the content and the recipient. Would he hand a printout of this to your (almost) WIFE' S MOTHER?

Totally completely innapropriate and also insensitive to you. Have they responded?

[Tambourine Man]

You're in the right. I had to throw a block on one of my buddies that kept sending me inappropriate stuff at work. And my mom doesn't have my real email address. She's got the address to a throwaway account I check every few weeks, so I'm not bombarded with her goofy mass emails.

[sighyoung]

You're complete right to ask him to stop. I receive crap from my sister-in-law all the time, but since it's silly, schmaltzy stuff, I just hit delete. But most people don't want to receive such e-mail.

Far, far worse if its crude/pornographic, and you're opening it at work, and he's sending it to large numbers who would be offended by it. I think you've said what needs to be said, though.

It's times like these that I thank heaven that my parents are Luddites.

[clevername]

it doesn't even have to be inappropriate stuff.

I find mass emailing/forwarding of any kind to generally be lame and often mildly offensive in the "not everyone thinks the same way as you" vein.

[Leroy]

Shaddap Leroy.

(and you are right)

[Popeye_Card]

I don't give my work email address to any of my friends or family for reasons such as this.

Who on earth would think that's appropriate?

[Popeye_Card]

I don't give my work email address to any of my friends or family for reasons such as this.

Who on earth would think that's appropriate?

This is where I am kinda dumb.

I do give out my work addy and I really shouldn't.

OK, a couple of my friends who I know I can trust have it. Any of my friends I know I can't, and any mutual friends who might copy an untrusted friend do not get it. Ever.