Wedding No-shows

[cardinalkarp]

I have always heard, when planning a wedding, count on 25% no-shows which is about what you had.

So you think that 25% of the people that RSVP are going to be no shows? I think they mean 25% of people invited, not that RSVP will not come to the wedding for one reason or the other. If someone RSVP's that means your setting a spot for them and paying for their food/drink in the head count. People that are on a budget for a wedding surely can't afford to lose 25% (on average) of what's spend on food and alcohol because people just decide they don't feel like coming.

[Swatcat27]

So you think that 25% of the people that RSVP are going to be no shows?

Yeah, that's scary...I hope Molly meant 25% of the people on the invite list.
As much as it sucked wasting boatloads of food, I seriously started questioning if I should maintain further relationship with these folks. For the 2 families who [expletive] about the food menu & made me custom order food, there are my best buddies from school - but they are dead to me now...

Molly, thanks for the wishes - life seems pretty normal thus far.

[Molly]

I have always heard, when planning a wedding, count on 25% no-shows which is about what you had.

So you think that 25% of the people that RSVP are going to be no shows? I think they mean 25% of people invited, not that RSVP will not come to the wedding for one reason or the other. If someone RSVP's that means your setting a spot for them and paying for their food/drink in the head count. People that are on a budget for a wedding surely can't afford to lose 25% (on average) of what's spend on food and alcohol because people just decide they don't feel like coming.

Missed the RSVP part. It is 25% of invitees.

[omaha_red]

we had about 40 extra people show up that didn't RSVP..
it sucked.. they had to open up another room and add more
tables and chairs.. and cook more food.. and for some reason,
they didn't charge us for all the extras.. which was awesome..

[cardinalkarp]

we had about 40 extra people show up that didn't RSVP..
it sucked.. they had to open up another room and add more
tables and chairs.. and cook more food.. and for some reason,
they didn't charge us for all the extras.. which was awesome..

Boy, did you get lucky!!

40 extra people would've been ALOT of cash.

[clstds]

So, I'm sitting down & looking at our post-wedding damage to our bank account and I just cant believe like 20 ppl RSVP'd that they were coming & just didnt show up. We had small wedding of around 90, so that is a big deal. Hold on, my wife had sent out 'the save the date' reminders as well. So, we have a seated dinner and the charge per person was something ridiculous and I havent heard from 75% of the no-shows, so I dont know whatever happened to showing a little bit of courtesy. Oh, the best part, some of my no-show friends had thrown a fit that they didnt get their ethnic food, so i had gone out of my way to cater from outside, adding an extra tab.

Do I cut ties with all these a$$es (too late in some instances) ? Have you ever done something like this ?

I feel your pain on the no-shows. Our wedding was little larger at about 200 people. We had around 35 guests RSVP and not show. That's 35 extra plates of food we had catered at $12 per plate! Argh! That's $420! On top of that, we didn't hear from at least half of them. No card, no call, nothing.

Even worse was when we decided to put $500 on the bar tab so there would be an open bar for at least part of the dance. Once the $500 had been reached, people would have to purchase their alcohol. Little did we know, the $500 would be used up before the wedding party even arrived at the reception. I was ticked! We found out later that when people found out it was an open bar for a limited time, they hoarded the bar and grabbed as many beers as they could hold. It took 20 minutes to finish off $500 worth of alcohol!

If only I could go back in time...

[Michael]

Welcome clstds! It's a shame people act that way at weddings...

[planet planet]

What I think is equally rude are the people who, without a very good reason, skip the actual wedding ceremony but make darn sure to attend the reception for the free food/alcohol.

Eh, no offense to any Catholics on the board, but I hate weddings at 1:00 in the afternoon where you have to come back at 7:00 for the reception. To me, it just smacks of "your whole day is all about me". Who wants to sit around dressed up all day including the time in between? I just skipped a wedding and went to the reception for the first time, mostly because I didn't even know the people. Which brings me to another peeve, if you barely know someone, why invite them to your wedding? It comes off as a present grab to me.

[G. Keenan]

What I think is equally rude are the people who, without a very good reason, skip the actual wedding ceremony but make darn sure to attend the reception for the free food/alcohol.

Eh, no offense to any Catholics on the board, but I hate weddings at 1:00 in the afternoon where you have to come back at 7:00 for the reception. To me, it just smacks of "your whole day is all about me". Who wants to sit around dressed up all day including the time in between? I just skipped a wedding and went to the reception for the first time, mostly because I didn't even know the people. Which brings me to another peeve, if you barely know someone, why invite them to your wedding? It comes off as a present grab to me.

If you barely know them, why did you go?

[planet planet]

What I think is equally rude are the people who, without a very good reason, skip the actual wedding ceremony but make darn sure to attend the reception for the free food/alcohol.

Eh, no offense to any Catholics on the board, but I hate weddings at 1:00 in the afternoon where you have to come back at 7:00 for the reception. To me, it just smacks of "your whole day is all about me". Who wants to sit around dressed up all day including the time in between? I just skipped a wedding and went to the reception for the first time, mostly because I didn't even know the people. Which brings me to another peeve, if you barely know someone, why invite them to your wedding? It comes off as a present grab to me.

If you barely know them, why did you go?

Because they were the kids of family friends and the in laws were going.