Rant: The one that got away

[Michael]

[JL21]

Well played, Mauer.

[Cronos]

Heh, I was going to say that if this thread wasn't awkward enough, it got even more so this morning.

[IMADreamer]

Pujols isn't the one that got away, he's the slut that cheated on you. Those are easy to get over.

[manofkards]

I don't give a [expletive] about any of my old girlfriends.

your gal better be scared if she reads this. you likely once thought those old gfs were 'the best' at the time too (or moments of time at least). an old buddy did some psych research on relationship patterns and how they repeat...repeat...repeat......he got hold of love letters/cards/notes from several exes of the study participants and compared them and ultimately there was nothing different in the ones to the ultimate wife/husband. apparently relationship speed also repeats----people either move in together quickly and say 'i love you' quick or don't. the repetition of behavoir was amazing. and more amazing, despite evidence of the exact opposite, they all claimed how different they were in their current relationships. we are delusional to get what we think we want sometimes.

if i told someone i loved them and then i could just walk away and not give a f--k about them at all in any way it would make me question my ability to really love someone. or at least what that means. and if my gal said that about her exes i'd run to higher ground. i actually enjoy meeting her significant exes, it's an interesting window into who she is.

[Maclowery]

My facebook status from thismorning:

Baby, I know you left me because that new guy promised you more security than I could give you. Maybe you never forgave me for that argument a few years back. But you'll miss me in the end. And I'll be better off without you anyway. Albert.

Mediocre joke, subtle passive-aggressive dig at the ex who still reads my FB, and coping mechanism all wrapped in one!

[Leroy]

If jim sang a song about his exes.

To all the girls I loved before,
Who traveled in an out my door,
I'm glad we took a chance,
Don't let it hit your ass,
To all the girls I loved before.

[IMADreamer]

Interesting twist in this story and funny timing since I posted this last week.

We went to a Christmas party tonight at the house of this older couple who goes to our church. Well I didn't know this but they live right next door to the parents of the one who got away and the one who got away was there at her parents house. Now I don't judge people by their car, their clothes, house, whatever. I'm really not a materialistic person and neither is my gf. She however has a really nice new Mercedes because her company leases one for her every three years and she just happened to get a new one a week or so ago and I was never so happy to be in a retardly expensive car that normally I'm a bit apprehensive about driving because I don't want people to think I'm a dick.

So we pull into these people drive and OTGA just happened to be loading up her car with her kids, boyfriend, and crap to leave. I haven't seen her in a long while and I kind of hoped not to talk to her. I instantly had a lump in my throat, my chest hurt, I was nervous but I knew I couldn't just hide in the car. So we got out and I hoped she didn't notice me but she did. She called my name followed by "OH MY GOD IT'S SO AWESOME TO SEE YOU!!" Her kid who must be 7-8 years old goes "OH MAN WHAT AN AWESOME CAR as he runs over." Anyway small talk ensued she did comment on how well I looked and how nice the car was, no way I was tell her it wasn't mine. lol and that was it. She was on her way and I was off to the party.

Oddly enough as I turned away saw my beautiful gf who smiled and put her arm around me as we walked in I didn't feel a thing for OTGA. I was maybe for the first time ever extremely content and comfortable for just being me. I don't know how I will feel tonight when lying in bed thinking about the day, but it made me realize that what I have is what I want and whatever the OTGA has to offer me can't really match it.

[IMADreamer]

btw I'm sorry for not being able to type short posts. I don't know what the [expletive] is wrong with me that I can't just get to the point.

[Maclowery]

Nothin wrong with typing enough to explain the story.

The other day you had a pic of the Benz and I was like "dammmmmn his business is doin pretty freakin well, maybe I should start getting into stonecutting" - ha!

In the long run its probably a booster for you to see the chick, with great timing havin a sweet car, and be happy to see your girl waiting for you. Its easy to say 'forget that other chick!' But in practice, its like sports' muscle memory. Your heart reflexively responds even though you're totally past it.

At least that's what I tell myself when I see TOTGA's face all over multiple cousins and friends' FB pics and updates. Right! Right!