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I'm now smoking again at work and have thrown up twice this week from the stress of being around her and being belittled and snapped at for completely innocuous reasons.

Is the Silent Treatment possible.

I say this in a much more sympathetic tone than it will seem:
You need to realize she has other guy's dicks in her mouth, [expletive] and ass on a nightly basis. She doesn't want to be with you. And, truth be told, you're better off because of it. If she snaps, ignore her. If she barks, ignore her. She's a [expletive] who apparently enjoys emasculating you, so, you know, don't let her.... Seriously, just ignore her. Also, smoking will stress you out more, stop that.

If she belittles you for no reason, keep your cool and ask for an explanation. If the explanation is not up to snuff, make her look stupid because she is wrong. But, don't point it out. Just kind of lead into it. "And, that is a big deal because......"

Anyway, hope you can find peace. Dealing with ex-gf's can really suck and drive men crazy. Be bigger than it, and don't let it. Focus on something else that you find peaceful and realize that this is a great opportunity to be out of your comfort zone and work on yourself during this time.

Freed Roger wrote:Is the Silent Treatment possible.

Not really. Were it, I'm still, frankly, too much of a doormat to ever succeed at it.

AWvsCBsteeeerike3 wrote:I say this in a much more sympathetic tone than it will seem:
You need to realize she has other guy's dicks in her mouth, [expletive] and ass on a nightly basis. She doesn't want to be with you. And, truth be told, you're better off because of it. If she snaps, ignore her. If she barks, ignore her. She's a [expletive] who apparently enjoys emasculating you, so, you know, don't let her.... Seriously, just ignore her. Also, smoking will stress you out more, stop that.

If she belittles you for no reason, keep your cool and ask for an explanation. If the explanation is not up to snuff, make her look stupid because she is wrong. But, don't point it out. Just kind of lead into it. "And, that is a big deal because......"

Anyway, hope you can find peace. Dealing with ex-gf's can really suck and drive men crazy. Be bigger than it, and don't let it. Focus on something else that you find peaceful and realize that this is a great opportunity to be out of your comfort zone and work on yourself during this time.

I have asked her, she just shrugged it off and played as if it were just typical ribbing but I know her too well for that to be the case. Thing is, 90% of the time she's the same as ever, we talk, we make each other laugh. Then she tries to bite my head off for something stupid in front of other people and makes me feel worthless.

The Third Man wrote:
I have asked her, she just shrugged it off and played as if it were just typical ribbing but I know her too well for that to be the case. Thing is, 90% of the time she's the same as ever, we talk, we make each other laugh. Then she tries to bite my head off for something stupid in front of other people and makes me feel worthless.

Please don't think that. She wants whatever comfort you provide her and uses you for it. But, she'll never return that favor. Either accept your role as her doormat and be okay with it (ie, stop stressing about it) or just move on. Quit trying to be her bff snugglebuddy while knowing full well she doesn't want that...despite giving glimpses of it.

Sorry man, really is a [expletive] situation.

I think she enjoys the attention. She enjoys getting under your skin. If you prove to her that she can't do this, that you're entirely indifferent to her and her BS, it will drive her insane. When she tries to get your goat, just say "OK" as flatly as possible and walk away. Be totally indifferent.

Is this the same chick that dumped you via text message on Christmas Eve?

If she snaps at you just tell that [expletive] to suck your [expletive] dick. And tell her that she is a syphilitic [expletive] with a [expletive] that could make a perfume store smell like a Chicken of the Sea factory in July.

When she starts in, just tell her that you like her much more when her mouth is full of your dick.