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Willing yourself to not contact an ex
Posted: December 18 08, 12:31 am
by docellis
Don't worry, I am not referring to plunger.
I dreamt that the only guy I've ever "really" been in love with was dying. I haven't seen him in 3 years (but I lived with him for 4+ years). No good could come from me calling him. But I woke up crying. I really loved him. I'm sure I am not a psychic and I am sure he is fine, but it is really hard to keep myself from calling him. I left him. But I really loved him. Nobody would tell me if he was really dying, he lives far away from me. But I know I could not be having prophetic dreams.
I don't need to call him. Right?
Re: Willing yourself to not contact an ex
Posted: December 18 08, 12:45 am
by dangerous
Call him.
Re: Willing yourself to not contact an ex
Posted: December 18 08, 12:47 am
by docellis
dangerous wrote:Call him.
I'll fight calling him as long as I can. It won't be a good experience. And there is no "good" outcome possible. Except knowing he isn't dying. And of course he isn't, because I am not psychic.
Re: Willing yourself to not contact an ex
Posted: December 18 08, 12:50 am
by Yanksfan1523
Don't call him. There has to be a mutual friend that you can ask if he is OK.
Re: Willing yourself to not contact an ex
Posted: December 18 08, 12:54 am
by docellis
Yanksfan1523 wrote:Don't call him. There has to be a mutual friend that you can ask if he is OK.
Yeah there is one. It would just be really awkward. She wouldn't tell me (voluntarily) if he was dying because she knows it would mess me up. So the conversation would be weird. And of course he isn't dying, I just had a bad dream. It was just a really, really, visual, realistic dream. But it would be hard to say "sooo, is Blake dying?" to my friend who knows I he is my achilles heel.
Re: Willing yourself to not contact an ex
Posted: December 18 08, 2:42 am
by Maclowery
Call him.
a. You still love him. Definitely call.
b. You don't love him "like that" but you still cherish him etc etc and your subconscious may not be saying he's dying, but maybe he deserves a check-in. Definitely call.
c. You've moved on and most likely, so has he, and he's someone who was important in your life, even though it's very, very hard to talk to him. But he's obviously on your mind very much. Tough call, but good for you.
d. You should never, ever talk to him again because it would re-open old wounds and all that jazz. Don't call him.
The way I see it, you have a 3 outta 4. Just do it. Don't say "O GOD I DREAMED YOU WERE DYING ARE YOU?!" right off the bat.
Re: Willing yourself to not contact an ex
Posted: December 18 08, 2:56 am
by G. Keenan
This is bull. Don't call him.
Dreams don't tell you anything about the world out there. They do tell you about how you feel. He's not dying, but your love for him is.
Don't call, it's sentimental claptrap.
Re: Willing yourself to not contact an ex
Posted: December 18 08, 2:56 am
by haltz
Maclowery wrote:Don't say "O GOD I DREAMED YOU WERE DYING ARE YOU?!" right off the bat.
I disagree.
Re: Willing yourself to not contact an ex
Posted: December 18 08, 3:00 am
by MrCrowesGarden
G. Keenan wrote:This is bull. Don't call him.
Dreams don't tell you anything about the world out there. They do tell you about how you feel. He's not dying, but your love for him is.
Don't call, it's sentimental claptrap.
or maybe she's dying without him.
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Re: Willing yourself to not contact an ex
Posted: December 18 08, 3:02 am
by G. Keenan
MrCrowesGarden wrote:G. Keenan wrote:This is bull. Don't call him.
Dreams don't tell you anything about the world out there. They do tell you about how you feel. He's not dying, but your love for him is.
Don't call, it's sentimental claptrap.
or maybe she's dying without him.
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Either way, calling him is pointless.