Rant: Flirting

[Popeye_Card]

Beach, in my experience, if you call the girl too much, too soon, you come off as needy and they bolt.

So now, I act like I don't care that much, but I'm interested in keeping it going, and girls eat that stuff up. I don't like waiting to call, I don't enjoy not talking to them more, but it's what has to be done to keep things going.

Weird the way we do things as a society without even realizing it. I always say I don't like to play games, but in reality, up until my latest and greatest, I've played them without even thinking about it.

This is indeed tough timing. Some ladies think you're a clinger if you call too soon. Some think you aren't interested if you call too late. Same with making moves on them--some may think you're coming on too strong, others may think you're a prude. The first few dates are always a bit tough to get a groove going. After that, it's pretty smooth sailing in my experience.

[cardinalkarp]

Beach, in my experience, if you call the girl too much, too soon, you come off as needy and they bolt.

So now, I act like I don't care that much, but I'm interested in keeping it going, and girls eat that stuff up. I don't like waiting to call, I don't enjoy not talking to them more, but it's what has to be done to keep things going.

Weird the way we do things as a society without even realizing it. I always say I don't like to play games, but in reality, up until my latest and greatest, I've played them without even thinking about it.

Truer words have not been spoken. The beginning of a relationship is always kind of a "chase" which can easily be interprited as playing games.

[JCShutout]

Beach, in my experience, if you call the girl too much, too soon, you come off as needy and they bolt.

So now, I act like I don't care that much, but I'm interested in keeping it going, and girls eat that stuff up. I don't like waiting to call, I don't enjoy not talking to them more, but it's what has to be done to keep things going.

Weird the way we do things as a society without even realizing it. I always say I don't like to play games, but in reality, up until my latest and greatest, I've played them without even thinking about it.

This is indeed tough timing. Some ladies think you're a clinger if you call too soon. Some think you aren't interested if you call too late. Same with making moves on them--some may think you're coming on too strong, others may think you're a prude. The first few dates are always a bit tough to get a groove going. After that, it's pretty smooth sailing in my experience.

++ That about sums up my experiences too.

[lukethedrifter]

The whole reason I posted this thread was that I was coming back from the new student orientation for my grad school yesterday and my roommate and I walked back with some ladies also in the program and we were talking a lot the entire way back, even on the train. And it reminded me of various situations where I've talked and carried on and had a good time with various ladies, but then by the end of the night I have some of my other friends telling me: "WTF, man? She wanted you. Why didn't you say anything?" and I had no clue.

I can't tell you how many times this has happened to me.

Lemme guess. Zero?

[docellis]

if a girl touches your forearm she will totally get nekid with you

[cardsfansince82]

On the bright side, this girl is in the same grad program as you so you'll have plenty more chances to figure out if she likes you and to make a move.

[lukethedrifter]

I'd also like to add that the whole "Nice guys finish last" tripe is a bunch of crap. Women just don't want a p#$$y (sorry for that but I didn't think <expletive> would do the thought justice). Most self confident women don't want a jerk or a creep, they just want a man not a weasel.

Be a man, don't be a jerk and pay freakin attention to the other, non verbal, dialogue that's going on. It's not an easy language to learn but it can be fun trying. Besides flirting isn't just teasing or mocking. I believe it's a way of testing sexual/social compatibility and that matters otherwise you may as well just be friends.

[Cronos]

On the bright side, this girl is in the same grad program as you so you'll have plenty more chances to figure out if she likes you and to make a move.

Nah, she's not my type. The situation just reminded me of other times when there were women I was very much interested in and similar things went on.

[Tambourine Man]

On the bright side, this girl is in the same grad program as you so you'll have plenty more chances to figure out if she likes you and to make a move.

Nah, she's not my type. The situation just reminded me of other times when there were women I was very much interested in and similar things went on.

How do you know what your type is until you date around a bit? It's not like every attractive gal you meet is going to be who you date. My current girlfriend and I were friends for 2 years before we "officially" dated. I had a crush on her early on, made some moves, and nothing happened. Fast forward 6 months...Crush was totally gone, I'm a mess (screwing) some chick I didn't really like, and whaddya know, we've been together for 6 years now. Expect to have your heart crushed a few times. Cupid's a little [expletive] who survives on unemployment.

And lukethecantdunk nailed it about "nice guys finish last"....sorry, sorry excuse. That's just feeling sorry for yourself.

[Cronos]

On the bright side, this girl is in the same grad program as you so you'll have plenty more chances to figure out if she likes you and to make a move.

Nah, she's not my type. The situation just reminded me of other times when there were women I was very much interested in and similar things went on.

How do you know what your type is until you date around a bit? It's not like every attractive gal you meet is going to be who you date. My current girlfriend and I were friends for 2 years before we "officially" dated. I had a crush on her early on, made some moves, and nothing happened. Fast forward 6 months...Crush was totally gone, I'm a mess (screwing) some chick I didn't really like, and whaddya know, we've been together for 6 years now. Expect to have your heart crushed a few times. Cupid's a little [expletive] who survives on unemployment.

And lukethecantdunk nailed it about "nice guys finish last"....sorry, sorry excuse. That's just feeling sorry for yourself.

I don't even know the girl, I've talked to her for all of ten minutes: how am I supposed to go on whether I'm attracted to her or not unless I'm at least slightly physically attracted to her? That's what I meant by "not my type" in this case.

And I don't think I've used the "Nice guys finish last" excuse, at least not in this thread. But now that you mention it...