I am the biggest dork you will ever (not) meet

[cardsfansince82]

I sort of thought that the term "cougar" was meant semi-affectionately.

I'm a fan.

[docellis]

I'd rather be a dork than a puma or a pre-cougar. I'm not sure exactly why it rubs me the wrong way.


But in my experience, if a guy asks you to dinner he usually tries to pay. If you stumble upon going to dinner in a mutual way the bill is up in the air. Also, I think if I know that the date isn't going anywhere and I know I won't want to see him again, I think I absolutely have to insist that I pay my way. Seems like good karma.

[GatewaySnayke]

I don't see paying for a girl's dinner as some sort of gentlemanly thing to do though. After some time, sure, but girls can do a lot of things, including buying their own food.

And nothing I've said or will say in this thread came from the teachings of Mystery. That's just a disclaimer.

[JCShutout]

I think this is an area that is just very diverse. I tend to do things which don't cost a lot of money, and have run around with women who treat things more on the level of, "whoever can afford more, pays more".

I run with a pretty ultra feminist* crowd too, some of whom want to pay in order to rebel against the stereotype of the male as the sole provider. I rebel against that stereotype too. I tend to be more attracted to stong, outspoken and independent women, so I tend to go out with them much more often, and this isn't really an issue. It usually turns into someone paying one time and the other paying the next time, or just going halfway.

Heck, the day after Thanksgiving I went out to lunch with some friends, one of whom ganked the check when I went to the bathroom and she refused to let me pay even for myself.

*I am not arguing that this is the only form of feminism being practiced.

[obucard]

Who is this?

Another piece of evidence that I am the biggest dork ever
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No_Heart

These people would disagree.

[SHOW]

[sighyoung]

Should I go out with this guy?

Edit: Going out with him would test my drunk selfs abiltiy to pick out men better than my sober self. It could be a grand failure.

Get drunk first, and see if you remember him. If not, why bother--even alcohol couldn't raise the guy's stock.

[docellis]

Should I go out with this guy?

Edit: Going out with him would test my drunk selfs abiltiy to pick out men better than my sober self. It could be a grand failure.

Get drunk first, and see if you remember him. If not, why bother--even alcohol couldn't raise the guy's stock.

I said yes. I just don't think I'd give my number to a total douchebag. Oh wait a minute...

Anyway, only two major red flags.
1. He said I was "hott". That extra "t" scares me.
2. He added "lol" a bit often.

So, we are going to explore some caves at midnight tomorrow.

[GatewaySnayke]

Unless he was being ironic when he called you "hott" and said "lol" then you gave your number to a douche bag.

[st.lewis11]

I don't offer to pay.

How often do you ask women out to dinner? What do you do when the bill comes? And my last question is why don't we have predatory nicknames for men who date women that are young?

Aren't us men referred to as DAWGS?

[clevername]

Unless he was being ironic when he called you "hott" and said "lol" then you gave your number to a douche bag.